So you have met the love of your life on spring break. He is handsome, he is nice, he is into you; he is basically perfect. Except for one major detail...he lives on the other side of the country or further! What do you do? You don't want to stop seeing him because of a minor thing like distance, but can the notoriously ill-fated long distance relationship actually work? We came up with a few simple tricks to make "LDRs" a little more bearable.
Trust
While no relationship can really survive without this basic emotional understanding, the LDR will crumble without it. Think Jenga, trust is comparable to that one block that if removed causes your solid structure to all come crashing down. Trusting your significant other--especially your new significant other--is not an innate quality to a relationship. You need to establish trust through open and honest communication. If you say you are going to call at a certain time, you should call at that time or if you are going away or going out to dinner with a friend (especially of the opposite sex) let your boyfriend or girlfriend know. If they feel like you are filling them in on all the details, then they will have nothing to feel suspicious about.
See each other without seeing each other
Even though it is best to make dates in person as often as you can, it is obviously not going to be as often as you both would like-- instead trying having interactive dates over the phone or via the internet. Attempt to have the dates normal couples would have such as a phone date after renting the same movies instead of going to the movies going to the movies, chatting online or via the phone as one of you describes the smells and tastes while you cook the other one a special treat (send pictures as you go or if it is something that will stay fresh for a while you can mail it to them afterwards!) or even just sit outside and through text messages or phone calls watch the night sky and pretend you are together-- in reality technically you are seeing the same thing!
Trust
While no relationship can really survive without this basic emotional understanding, the LDR will crumble without it. Think Jenga, trust is comparable to that one block that if removed causes your solid structure to all come crashing down. Trusting your significant other--especially your new significant other--is not an innate quality to a relationship. You need to establish trust through open and honest communication. If you say you are going to call at a certain time, you should call at that time or if you are going away or going out to dinner with a friend (especially of the opposite sex) let your boyfriend or girlfriend know. If they feel like you are filling them in on all the details, then they will have nothing to feel suspicious about.
See each other without seeing each other
Even though it is best to make dates in person as often as you can, it is obviously not going to be as often as you both would like-- instead trying having interactive dates over the phone or via the internet. Attempt to have the dates normal couples would have such as a phone date after renting the same movies instead of going to the movies going to the movies, chatting online or via the phone as one of you describes the smells and tastes while you cook the other one a special treat (send pictures as you go or if it is something that will stay fresh for a while you can mail it to them afterwards!) or even just sit outside and through text messages or phone calls watch the night sky and pretend you are together-- in reality technically you are seeing the same thing!
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distance relationship.He lives in texas (hes in the army) and I
live in Indiana. We made it work for 2 years. Im not gonna
lie...its hard. very hard. The distance is what tore us apart. but
there are certain ways you can try to make it work. Make sure that
you live your own life while he is gone. Dont sit around waiting
on his phone calls because even if you miss one you can always
call him back.And if he forgets to call because he was out with
the guys dont get mad and DONT blow his phone up. Hes not with
other girls hes just having a good time and believe it or not
talking to you will make that good time go bad because he will be
missing you instead of having fun.not too mention he'll start to
think you dont trust him. Make sure you do special things that let
him know you are thinking of him like sending him a text in the
morning telling him to have a good day. Set up times for you both
to go see each other even if its not that often. Use webcam so you
can see each other, or you can send pics to each others phones.
but honestly unless you are BOTH totally in love, i wouldn't
recommend trying a long distance relationship. 9 times out of 10
its not a happy ending.